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GHOSTS AND GOBLINS

 

It’s almost Halloween—the time of year we bring forth all our scary darkness, the ghosts and goblins of our inner world. Scary movies flood the TV, and trick-or-treating youngsters (and their parents) learn the horrors of massive sugar ingestion.

 

Originally called All Hallow’s Eve, the holiday goes back to its pagan roots in the Celtic festival of Samhain, meaning summer’s end—a time to take stock and prepare for the cold months ahead, which were often associated with death. The souls of the dead were supposed to visit their former homes on Samhain eve, and people would wear costumes to ward off the roaming ghosts. Even carving that silly grin on your pumpkin comes from the Samhain custom of carving turnips into lanterns to remember the souls held in purgatory.

 

On Halloween, we feel safe in donning a mask of horror to cover up the usual mask we wear—our everyday faces, which could easily be masking a real monster inside. Think of various serial killers, like Ted Bundy, who looked like the nice guy next door.

 

But not all ghosts and goblins come out on Halloween. There are real life people who express the archetypes of monsters. Stephen King, in his first book, Carrie, portrayed the horrors of adolescence by making Carrie a teenager with a scary, uncontrollable monster side.  Stephen King has broken down monsters into three archetypes—the “thing without a name,” the vampire (a hugely popular monster these days), and the werewolf. He also alludes to a fourth archetype, the ghost.

 

Another way of looking at monster archetypes is to call them “things that should not be,” “things that devour us,” “things with two faces,” and “things that would not die.”

 

“Things that should not be” are the monsters that kill without remorse or pity. They can be mindless beasts or intelligent ones like Frankenstein. We think of these monsters as evil, as demons and devils. In our lives, this archetype can be applied to people we know who lack control over their lower instincts and who make the world a dangerous place for us. A sexual predator who molests a child is living out the monster archetype of a thing that should not be, and turns the world into a dangerous place for the child.

 

“Things that devour us,” like vampires, are like people who prey on us. We provide them with some sort of substance they need.  Zombies need to eat our brains or flesh, vampires need to suck our blood, and then there are parasites that devour us from the inside out, such as those in Alien. When you think of this archetype, think of people who invade your mind or soul, like a cult leader who needs your adulation and not your independent thinking.

 

“The thing with two faces” is the classic Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde, or the werewolf. Both Dr. Jekyll and the werewolf hide their antisocial nature behind a more pleasant social façade. Many serial killers, like Jeffrey Dahlmer or Norman Bates, hide behind a socially-acceptable exterior. People who hold a lot of power, such as politicians or mob bosses, all are things with two faces. Are there people in your life who have been corrupted by power although they still present a kind face to the world?

 

“The thing that would not die” is the archetype of the ghost. Whether it’s simply an unhappy spirit that hasn’t finished its work on Earth, or a mean avenging banshee, the “thing that would not die” has not moved on to other planes, but sticks around to bring sorrow or death. You can have ghost-like hauntings of former lovers or others who hurt or betrayed you, and they linger in your thoughts and still bring up difficult emotions.

 

Take time this Halloween to look within and see if you are harboring any ghosts or goblins inside yourself. This can be far scarier than the witches and devils that may ring your doorbell. But be brave and see if you can root out any “monster”-type tendencies in your own make-up. Take off the mask you usually wear, and look at your own darkness. Accept it and release it. It’s the best preparation for the coming return of the light.

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Motivations for Becoming a Life Coach

You have reached the point in your life when you realize that your greatest happiness comes from helping others. You want to experience greater spiritual growth and know that service is the key to unlocking your potential. Yet you also need to pay the bills. You can satisfy all those requirements by becoming a life coach. The life coaches that we have trained through the Deborah King Center LifeForce Coaching program come from a wide variety of backgrounds, but all share a common belief that everyone can experience true fulfillment and reach their highest potential.

Are you ready to listen to your intuition, which is saying that life coaching would be a great path for you to follow? Here we share more about the journey of becoming a life coach, so you can envision yourself growing into a richer, greater you.

Navigating Life from Within

During our life coach workshops, you will receive the necessary knowledge and advanced communication techniques to be an effective and confident life coach. You’ll learn to navigate your life from inner wisdom instead of reacting and responding to outside stimuli. You’ll feel like part of the solution—helping to make our world a more peaceful and happier place.

Our LifeForce Coaching program is made up of teaching videos, blueprints, workshops (both live and streaming) and guided meditations. All are designed and targeted to help you achieve your life coaching certification. More specifically:

  • You will be able to overcome obstacles in your own life and achieve better harmony and balance . . . and help others to do the same.
  • You will learn how to be mindful and accountable to your own clients by providing valuable assistance, listening, and guidance.
  • You will learn to understand your clients’ goals and how to help them achieve those goals.

What to Expect

Expect to emerge as a stronger and more compassionate person after taking the journey to become a life coach. Our LifeForce Coaching program will help in every aspect of your life and the life of your clients: family, career, relationships, personal growth, fitness, nutrition, weight, organization, and grief and loss. Why not begin your journey today?

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EXHAUSTION AND MAGNESIUM

You know the feeling—you can’t keep your eyes open for another second. You didn’t sleep well last night, or any night for that matter. The least bit of stress totally wipes you out. You’re snapping at your partner or co-workers. You have no energy for exercise. And you can’t keep up with your work. What’s wrong with you?

 

Well, it could be that you’re overworked and underpaid, stressed out trying to balance work, kids, and aging parents, or that you’re just getting older. But it could also be as simple as a deficiency in magnesium. Three out of every four aren’t getting enough of this vital mineral.

 

Magnesium is needed for more than 300 crucial bodily functions, such as lowering blood pressure, protecting the heart and blood vessels, thinning the blood, relieving constipation, taking care of your bones (along with calcium), helping you to relax and sleep better, preventing diabetes, and boosting your energy. A growing number of health care professionals believe magnesium could be the most important nutrient for health, and certainly for energy.

 

How does magnesium affect your energy? For one thing, too little magnesium can decrease the number of your red blood cells, making it harder for them to deliver oxygen to your tissues. In other words, it’s harder for your body to breathe, and so it has to work harder, making you feel more tired. If you experience heart-pumping anxiety, it might be because your magnesium levels are too low, so your heart has to work harder (beat faster). One scientific study of magnesium in postmenopausal women showed that when they were low in magnesium, they “needed more energy and more oxygen to do low-level activities…”

 

How do you know if you are deficient in magnesium? The most telltale signs are irritability, anxiety, and lethargy. Instead of upping your caffeine intake or relying on sweets for an energy boost, first take a look at what you’re eating and when you’re eating it. To keep enough magnesium in your blood, eat five servings a day of foods that are rich sources of magnesium. The Recommended Dietary Allowance (RDA) for magnesium for women over the age of 31 is 320 milligrams (mg) and for men over 31 it’s 420 mg a day. Spread your five servings over the course of the day to keep replenishing your store of this magnificent mineral. It will take at least a week of eating this way to get your energy back up.

 

Here are the foods that are highest in magnesium:

 

  1. Quinoa—A rare whole grain and complete protein (1/2 cup contains 118 mg of magnesium).
  2. Black Beans—1 cup has 120 mg of magnesium.
  3. Brown Rice—1 cup of brown rice contains 84 mg of magnesium plus essential amino acids. Pair it with black beans for a complete protein and magnesium-rich meal.
  4. Spinach—1/2 cup of boiled spinach has 78 mg of magnesium. Cooked spinach, rather than raw, makes it easier for your body to absorb the minerals during digestion.
  5. Lentils—A great high protein meat substitute, 1 cup of lentils contains 72 mg of magnesium.
  6. Kidney beans—1 cup of kidney beans has 70 mg of magnesium.
  7. Shredded Wheat—1 cup is a good source of fiber and has 61 mg of magnesium. Raisin Bran is another good cereal, with 77 mg of magnesium per cup. Try making muffins from Raisin Bran.
  8. Oatmeal—Begin your day with 1 cup of oatmeal, which contains 61 mg of magnesium.
  9. Whole Wheat Bread—Two slices of whole wheat bread contains 46 mg of magnesium. Get a big energy boost from a midday peanut butter and banana sandwich!
  10. Bananas—A good source of magnesium (up to 32 mg), and also a source of potassium, another nutrient needed by the heart.

 

Other sources of magnesium include soy beans, bran, almonds and brazil nuts, and seeds. A daily multivitamin doesn’t have enough magnesium to take care of a deficiency. So bump up your magnesium-rich foods to ratchet up your energy!

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INNER WISDOM

 

Perhaps you recognize this conversation with yourself: “I really have to upgrade the operating system on my computer and bring my car in for an oil change, but first I have to get my taxes done. Why did I ever file an extension? I won’t have enough time to cook a decent dinner, so it’s pizza again. I’m such an idiot about money. I have no trouble losing money, but lots of trouble losing weight. What a loser! No wonder I don’t have a successful life!”

 

That nagging, self-deprecating voice is your internal judge and jury—the narrative you have going that reflects the way you internalized your parents, teachers, friends, therapists, and lovers, and all the others who contribute to your social conditioning. It’s sort of like an annoying reality show on TV that you can’t seem to shut off, with each character playing a part in your inner drama.

 

There is another voice inside your head, a voice that tends to speak softly, rather than shout at you. It’s the Jiminy Cricket voice, the gently nudging of your conscience. “You shouldn’t have told that lie. Things are going to get complicated. You should really go back to her and admit the truth.” Its promptings are ethical, and it pays to listen to this voice.

 

But there is still another voice that is the expression of your deepest wisdom. Sometimes it comes from your heart, other times from the gut. It definitely doesn’t come from your thinking mind, the one that is so often overrun by mindless chatter. What is inner wisdom? It’s not the stuff you learned in school. It has nothing to do with logic. The “voice” of inner wisdom may not even use words. It’s more like that feeling in the pit of your stomach that says, “Leave now. This place isn’t safe.” Or “this is the apartment for me.”

 

Research has shown that our intuition is accessible on a body level long before our awareness catches up. Scientists in the UK and at the University of Iowa have done studies on body wisdom versus the thinking mind by using decks of cards, some of which were rigged. Very quickly, the players’ heart rates dipped when they went near the decks that were rigged. Another study measured perspiration on the card players’ palms. The players started getting sweatier palms within ten cards, but they couldn’t say that the decks were rigged for sure, from their logical mind, until they reached the 80th card.

 

Do you try to hear your inner wisdom when you have an important decision to make, or when you’re embroiled in challenging circumstances and don’t know how to deal with it? How can you tell which voice is coming from your inner wisdom? Try this. Write the very first answer that comes to you about a question you’re having. When you read it, does it make you feel calm, peaceful, relaxed? If so, it’s a wise response. If it increases your tension and amps up your anxiety, it’s likely coming from  your less wise linear mind.

 

Of course, the best way to get in touch with your inner wisdom is through a contemplative practice like meditation or prayer. After you have sat in deep stillness, the answers you seek can rise like hot air balloons into your consciousness, quietly giving rise to the aha! of true understanding.

 

For many people, learning to listen to their intuition means trusting their gut feelings. Sometimes literally. An assessment of eating habits of female college students at Ohio State University found that those who listened to their body cues of hunger and fullness had a much lower body mass index than the women who tried weight control through counting calories. Intuitive eaters spend more time thinking about how their body feels and functions rather than what their body looks like to others. Try to listen to your stomach’s signals, the deep wisdom of what your body actually needs, and stop eating before you feel stuffed.

 

Yet another way to learn to listen to your intuition is to write down a problem and think about it just before you go to sleep, and your solution will often be within reach when you wake in the morning. Or the answer may even come in a dream, where we aren’t hampered by our logical conscious mind. Dreams have long served as warnings about health issues or other situations that your mind hasn’t yet grasped.

 

Sometimes our inner wisdom can explode in a flash of insight. You meet someone for the first time and you know he’s the one. Or you’re walking down the street and suddenly know you have to go into the restaurant you just passed. You’re not hungry, but something is compelling you. You go in, and there’s a friend you haven’t seen in years who desperately needs your help.

 

Whatever way is easiest for you to connect with your intuitive inner wisdom is the best way for you. There are no rules. No matter if your signals come from tingling fingertips, or from an ache in the gut, or from a sudden flash of insight, listen to what your inner wisdom is trying to reveal and you will have a happier and healthier life.

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SENSORY SATISFACTION

 

Does life seem dull to you? Are you experiencing each day as a sensory feast or has everything lost its zing? Often, as we age, our five senses—taste, touch, sight, hearing, and smell—lose some of their potency. I remember a friend’s father who lost his sense of smell in his eighties, and as a result lost most of his ability to taste food, since smell and taste are intricately related.

You can reawaken senses that have become dulled and once again enjoy life to its fullest.

If you’ve ever watched an infant for any length of time, you’ve seen how totally it embraces each new experience. A baby stares at your face as if it were the Mona Lisa, a work of total wonderment. A sudden noise produces a startle effect. The introduction of each new food can provide a circus-full of smelling, touching, and tasting. And babies are so tuned into vibration that the touch of a stranger can make an infant shrink away.

But adults are so busy thinking, caught up in solving problems and reaching our goals that we tend to ignore the information coming from our senses. We may eat in a rush standing up in the kitchen, or be totally unaware of what we’re tasting as we sit on the couch in front of the TV. We are also under constant bombardment from computers, televisions, smart phones, and a whole host of electronic machinery, as well as noise from the environment like airplanes going overhead or street traffic, so it’s natural for us to shut down to protect against sensory overload.

To enter once again the joy of your sensory kingdom, you can practice returning to a state of child-like innocence. One way to do this is through mindfulness practice. Mindfulness is an awareness of the present moment. You become less attached to thoughts about the past and stop worrying about the future, so you are Here and Now with whatever is in front of you.

Take a moment to try being mindful. Focus your attention on your breathing. Keep your eyes open and breathe normally. Whenever your mind wanders, which it will, keep bringing your attention back to the way the breath feels as it enters and exits at the tip of your nose. Concentration brings your mind into focus and helps to eliminate mental chatter. Mindfulness is beyond concentration. It is a state of awareness, a “presence” of mind. Once you have the idea of bringing yourself into the present moment, use that ability to sharpen your senses—one at a time.

  1. Seeing without labeling: Pick up a familiar object and look at it as if you had just stepped onto another planet and don’t yet have a name for whatever it is or any idea of its function. Observe it. Look at its color and shape. You will feel a heightened sense of “nowness” when you practice conscious observation. Another way to heighten your sense of sight is to pay attention to your peripheral vision instead of focusing on just one small area at a time. And to really awaken your power of observation, start to consciously note what is being said by other people’s body language.
  2. Listening from the place of silence: We are usually not aware of all the noise pollution we live with. We are tuned into the sounds that capture our attention, like cell phone ring tones, but manage to block out the sounds of planes, cars, kids playing in the park across the street (unless they are your kids, of course). Sit quietly, still your mind, and mindfully focus on the sounds you hear—birds in the trees, the traffic from a distant freeway, leaves in the wind, someone playing clarinet. If you can include the sounds in your awareness, you won’t be as upset about “noise.”
  3. Tasting the yumminess: When was the last time you really savored your food? The American palate is bombarded with so much sugar and salt that the subtler flavors are wiped away. Food may seem tasteless without more ketchup or hitting the salt shaker. Prepare a simple meal of fresh unprocessed food. Think about where each food originated and how it made it to your table. Sit down to eat with no distractions—no TV or computer or book or music—and chew each bite slowly to see what flavors are released. If you really want to be shocked, have a friend help you do a blind taste test.
  4. Smelling the roses: Your sense of smell is a direct route to your most vivid memories. You walk past a bakery and inhale the scent of fresh apple pie, and there you are Grandma’s at Thanksgiving. Pick up a lover’s forgotten shirt and you’re likely to bury your face in it to inhale his scent. Take the time to really experience the fragrance of the shampoo or soap you use, or the scent of different herbs or flowers. Try not to clutter your home with artificial aromas; use scented candles or incense instead of air freshener, open windows to air out rooms. Wake up your awareness of what you are breathing in. There’s a reason that another word for inhalation is inspiration.
  5. Touching the core: Touch is one of our most vital sources of information about the world around us. Even the most mundane activities can become a journey of discovery if you pay attention to your sense of touch. For example, try washing the dishes mindfully and a chore can turn into an exhilarating experience!
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DREAM ON


Is there something you’ve always wanted to do but somehow have never found the time to pursue your dream? Maybe you want to walk the Camino in Spain, or trek in the Himalayas. Maybe everyone you know thinks you should audition for “American Idol.” Or there’s a book in you that is itching to get written. How do you go about turning your dream into a reality?

 

Here are 25 tips:

  1. Say it out loud, with confidence. “I am going to try out for “Dancing with the Stars.” Or post it on Facebook. Or send out an email to everyone you know.
  2. Be open to possibilities. You never know when a golden opportunity will come knocking at your door. Make sure you’re available to open it!
  3. Get the training you need. Always wanted to build your own website, become an opera singer, start a non-profit organization? Sign up for classes, find a tutor, get another degree if need be. You have to have the skills for what you want to do.
  4. Read, read, read. Go to a bookstore or library or download an ebook and find material that is related to the area you want to pursue. The more you know, the more real your dream will become.
  5. Find a mentor in your desired field. Apply for training programs so you get educated in the requirements.
  6. Ask everyone you know if they have connections in your dream field. Always wanted to be a radio show host? Ask if they know someone who works in broadcasting. You’ll be surprised at what six degrees of separation can provide.
  7. Do what you can by yourself. Want to open your own hair salon? Find the space and do the renovation and decorating yourself.
  8. Be ready for the unexpected to happen. You never know who is going to walk through the door, or call or text or email, or what will happen because of weather, or the economy, a sudden illness, or a parent or child who absolutely needs your attention.
  9. Whatever you do, don’t quit your day job until your dream job can pay the bills. It’s great that you want to express yourself creatively, but have you ever heard the term “starving artist”?
  10. Find a different job that has more flexible hours or a better schedule so you can take the classes or hone the skills for your dream work.
  11. Be different. Write a startling or humorous resume. Use bright colored sheets on your massage table. Combine allopathic and holistic approaches in your health care practice.
  12. Learn how to ask for help. You may be good at asking for directions, but how are you about admitting you can’t do it all yourself? Learn that it’s not a sign of weakness to need help. Be confident in your project or goal, and get help when you need it.
  13. Don’t let rejection make you abandon your dream. J.K. Rowling’s first Harry Potter book got 12 rejections before it found a publisher. Steven King got 30 rejection letters for his first novel. And Alex Hayley, the author of Roots, received 208 rejection letters. Keep on trying!
  14. Be the one in charge. You always wanted to help the underprivileged kids in your community and have made many suggestions to various agencies about what they should do. Bite the bullet and say you’ll manage/head the program yourself.
  15. Have a good support network. You’ll meet people in the area you want to pursue. Get their contact info and contact them from time to time to compare notes, get advice, or brainstorm new solutions.
  16. Ask for feedback. You’ve designed everything you need for your new venture. Take into account how others react to it. Don’t be too proud to admit that they might be right about some things that need fixing. On the other hand, don’t be so weak-willed that you cave on things you really believe in.
  17. Don’t be shy. If you’re going to try out for “American Idol,” you better be ready to toot your own horn. If you’re opening your own business, name it after yourself and claim it!
  18. Learn how to communicate better. Take a workshop in dialoguing. Learn how to be a really good listener. Find someone to teach you how to negotiate with your boss or your clients.
  19. Stay as emotionally stable as possible. If you get easily overwhelmed, observe the stress you’re dealing with. Maybe find a therapist or coach to help you understand your triggers and how to release stress without negatively impacting your goal.
  20. Reward yourself. Maybe your dream is to fit into a size 8 after decades of being a plus size. Every ten pounds you drop is a cause for celebration—a massage at a spa, a new haircut, a babysitter for the kids or a night on the town. Whatever your goal, reward the incremental steps along the way.
  21. Express yourself creatively. It doesn’t have to be through one of the arts. Maybe you’re most creative in the kitchen, or in business, or in sports. But find some way to express your individuality and let it shine.
  22. Don’t be afraid of failure. Everyone fails at some point in time, and it is the richest experience you can have. As the old saying goes: pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again.
  23. Know when it’s time to quit. You will go through many difficulties on the road to your own personal success. But when all the joy has gone out of the adventure, when you’re buried in negativity, stop for a moment to ask yourself: is it time to stop heading down this road and find another?
  24. Take a personal problem and turn it into a great solution. One woman who was tired of always having to paint over her kid’s scuff marks in the hallway designed a little brush you could fill with the paint color and it’s now a huge booming business.
  25. Don’t worry. Be happy. Whether or not your dreams come true, if you can maintain a clear and harmonious inner emotional balance, you will have a rich life.
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When Stress Can Be Good For You

Not all stress is bad – here are 5 examples of occasions when stress can be good for you:

1.   Recovering from surgery. Going under the knife is stressful. But the short-term stress of surgery can work in your favor by actually helping you to heal faster. In nature, wounds usually happen following stressful situations, such as when a gazelle is being chased by a lion. Short-term stress hormones surge through the body in anticipation of the potential outcome–like the gazelle getting bit but managing to escape–and gets the body ready for the fast healing that will have to take place.

2.    Preventing colds and flu. If you’re feeling deadline pressure in the short-term, your body will most likely work overtime to keep you well. That’s because some stress is helpful to rev your immune system to fight off viruses and bacteria since it’s the stress-regulating adrenal glands that balance immunity.

3.    Increasing connections. Even if you’re not the type to actually embrace stress, it may motivate you more to reach out to others. In fact, short-term stress has been shown to boost levels of oxytocin, a.k.a. the bonding hormone.

 



4.    Enhancing memory. Have you ever been in a stressful situation where your mind felt super-aware and laser-sharp? It’s the rush of hormones to the prefrontal cortex (a brain region important for controlling cognition and emotion) that may boost your working memory, or the short-term kind used in speaking, problem solving and processing sensory information. 


5.    Toughening up. Whether you’re stressed because you lost your job or are having marital problems, those feelings could be life-changing–in a good way. Those of us who deal with misfortune are actually more well adjusted than those who’ve had no bumps in the road at all.

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A Balanced Third Chakra

Third Chakra

When our third energy centers are fit and healthy, we feel able to take action. Our intentions are clearly focused. Those with vibrant third energy centers claim their power and stand in it. They have no need to demand or ruthlessly take power from someone else. Power flows to them because they know who they are and who they are not. These people can accomplish a great deal in the world.

An inspiring example of someone with an integrated third energy center is Halle Berry, the first African-American woman to win the Academy Award for Best Actress for her role in the movie Monster’s Ball. Berry, the child of a white mother and African-American father, was a shy young girl whose father drank and abused her mother before he left when she was four years old. Kids teased her about her mixed color at school, yet she chose to become a beauty queen, fashion model, and then an actress. While filming a television show, she fainted on the set from undiagnosed diabetes and wound up in a coma for a week. When she woke up, she embarked on a healthy diet and exercise lifestyle. Now she says that diabetes turned out to be a gift. She said, “It gave me strength and toughness because I had to face reality, no matter how uncomfortable or painful it was.”

That pain included an attempted suicide after an early relationship failed. She said, “My sense of worth was so low. I had to reprogram myself to see the good in me. Because someone didn’t love me didn’t mean I was unlovable. I promised myself I would never be a coward again.”

Halle Berry may have come from a place of desperate inadequacy, but her will and resilience have overcome the distortion in her third chakra. She now lives her truth without bending to what others think and has learned how to manifest her desires, overcoming her diabetic condition to have the baby she so wanted in her life, even after 35 negative pregnancy tests. In an interview she said, “I have never been in better physical and emotional shape, and I’m happy in my personal life—what a novel idea!”

A few considerations for obtaining a balanced third chakra are:

  • Live your truth without regard for what others think.
  • Take responsibility for your words and actions.
  • Acknowledge that you have a choice and the ability to manifest your desires.

CHECKLIST

If you have concerns about whether you have imbalance in this area, answer the following questions:

  • Am I able to acknowledge and move through my feelings of anger and resentment without blaming o verbally attacking others
  • Is jealously eating me up?
  • Do I feel I can cooperate with others as a team player or do I invariably need to hog the limelight?
  • Do I chronically push myself and others to get things done? Do I try to “push” time itself?
  • Do I try to control others or events?
  • Do I have a habit of standing with my arms folded in front of me, above my waist, in an effort to protect my solar plexus?
  • Do I frequently feel overpowered by people I am with?
  • Is winning everything?
  • Do I require outside approval to feel okay about myself?

To support an increase in energy, vitality, and connection to self, I often recommend that people spend a portion of their day in the sun, preferably in the early morning or just before sunset. (If you are inclined to be angry or short-tempered, though, be very cautious about becoming too warm.) Engaging in any physical movement awakens and recharges your body, especially first thing in the morning. Try some form of intentional movement like t’ai chi, yoga, or Pilates, preferably outside. Gardening is another wonderful antidote to a frantic, fast-paced routine. Anything that allows you to slow down and become acquainted with who you are and what you really feel is key.

From Truth Heals (Hay House 2010)

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What Color is Your Aura?

Auras

The Human Aura:

The aura is the electromagnetic field that surrounds the human body as well as every other organism and object in the Universe.

An Aura consists of electro-magnetic energies of varying densities that permeate through and emit or exit from the physical body of a living person. These particles of energy are suspended around the healthy human body in an oval shaped field. This “auric egg” emits out from the body approximately 2-5 feet (1 meter on average) on all sides. It extends above the head and below the feet into the ground.

The human aura consists of seven levels or bodies. Each one of the subtle bodies that exist around the physical body has its own unique frequency. They are interrelated, and reflect the person’s feelings, emotions, thinking, and behavior. A state of imbalance in one of the levels can lead to a state of imbalance in the others.

The Auric Bodies (levels of the Human Energy Field):

  1. Etheric auric body – Physical sensations. Simple physical comfort, pleasure, health.
  2. The emotional auric body – Emotions about the self.
  3. Vital auric body – Rational mind. To understand the situation in a clear, linear, rational way.
  4. Astral (emotional) body – Relations with others. Loving interaction with friends and family.
  5. Lower mental auric body – Divine will within. To align with the divine will within, to make commitment to speak and follow the truth.
  6. Higher mental auric body – Divine love and spiritual ecstasy.
  7. Spiritual (intuitive) body – Divine mind, serenity. To be connected to divine mind and to understand the greater universal pattern.

NOTE: It is NOT necessary to “see” colors and the ability to “see” them is vastly overrated; it is more important to be able to sense or feel them, or to simply know the state of an aura. So, relax and feel into auras without the need to see and enjoy!

Color Meanings

There is no such thing as a bad Aura! Nor are there bad colors. in their pure state all  colors are good and useful. When light is blocked or slowed down it will loose its  effectiveness and become gray or dull. Everything living has at least four colors  appearing in their aura with a variety of shades and hues.

RED: Passion, very active, (deep red) over active, (dull red) burned out, (bright red) sexy, leadership, love of sports, challenge, courage, practical, desire for possessions, sense of adventure, and a survival instinct. Most children have bright red auras – especially males. They are very active and ‘on the go’. Reds like a challenge, is a force of will, hard workers, like to achieve results and success. They do not punch a time clock, and work till they drop.
ORANGE: Creativity, confidence, ambition, originality, sociability, openness, intuition, independence, expression, ability to solve problems and work without supervision. Many talented sales people, entrepreneurs and people who deal with the public have orange auras. Think while they act. They enjoy their sexuality. They love adventure, excitement and intrigue, and often will have multiple partners. They are independent and not emotionally needy. Oranges love to get organized!
YELLOW: Spontaneous, intellect, happy, and cheerful. A sense of humor, confident, optimistic, with a warm smile are typical. People with yellow auras have the ability to brighten the lives of those around them. Yellows bring warmth, originality and exhilaration they usually are playful, fun loving, humorous, and somewhat childlike. They pay attention to details, organization and are disciplined!
GREEN: Healing, teaching, caring, high self-esteem, tenacity, money, harmony, balance, and growth. A rich dark green is abundance, prosperity and wealth. Greens (bright) are driven to be successful and often own their own business, are goal-oriented and make lists (check them off as they complete a goal). Greens need to be in control. Family matters and parenting are important to them. Medical professionals and people involved in the healing arts of any kind often have greens strongly in their auras.
BLUE: Communication, loyalty, good listener, contentment, peaceful, caretaker, calmness, patience, sensitive, honest, empathic, generous, warmhearted, and often times spiritual. Blue indicates a depth of feeling; love, truth, trust, dedication, tranquility, tenderness and affection. Blues cannot think of sex unless they are in love. Blues convey wisdom, and are reliable. A good talker!
INDIGO: Intuitive, observant, aware, open-minded, liberal, tolerant, charitable, shrewd, perceptive, and leadership capabilities. It represents intuitive understanding, serious, use their imagination, inspiration, creativity, and are humanitarians. Indigoes also have healing ability, and are gentle, and compassionate.
VIOLET: Spiritual, mystical, looks for magical solutions, visionaries, always see the big picture, search for the truth, questioning, take everything at face value, tends to be intuitive, and unconventional. People with a lot of violet (purple) in their Aura field tend to live in a world of fantasy and love to daydream. Things come to them without pushing, what they want and need come to them as if by unexplained. They do not have to push to get what they want.
MAGENTA: Nonconformists, innovated, strong-willed, inventive, imaginative, artistic, resourceful, productive, creative and has an agile mind. Magenta’s are bright and determined about things they regard as important. They are great manipulators as well as actors. Magenta’s tap dance to their own tune!
WHITE: Highly motivated, bright, ability to see ‘the big picture’, a chameleon, money is not always the object of their lives, great wisdom. Whites are avid readers and enjoy television, movies, and the theatre ( the main source of social learning for them). White have become the chameleons of the spectrum, assimilating other colors into their aura in order to hide or protect themselves. Often white (if there is a double white in the photo) echo a spirit that is around the person.
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Calcium and Heart Health

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A European study published in Heart (a medical journal) in May of this year came to the conclusion that “increasing calcium intake from diet might not confer significant cardiovascular benefits, while calcium supplements, which might raise (heart disease) risk, should be taken with caution.” What the researchers are suggesting is that when supplements supply a sudden burst of calcium into the system, the calcium seems more likely to end up in the plaque that lines artery walls than to build stronger bones.

Basically, we’ve been lied to about cholesterol and calcium by the same people who brought us SAD—the Standard American Diet. Cholesterol, far from being the big bad guy in heart disease, is only one component of plaque: cholesterol is pliable, and vitally important for brain cells and nerves. Calcium, on the other hand, when it forms deposits (calcifications), is a much more worrisome part of plaque. Calcium can pile up in organs and cause kidney stones; Alzheimer’s disease stems from calcification of brain matter; arteries hardened by excess calcium lead to heart attacks. Where does most of that calcium come from? Processed foods that have been “fortified” with calcium, or from supplements that are high in elemental calcium.

The link between calcium, vitamin D, and bone health is fully supported by the European Food Safety Authority, but the big push for calcium supplements by mainstream medicine is supported only by a lot of simplification. Western medicine tends to take things apart, pull apart all the factors and study them in isolation. What Ayurveda and other Eastern traditions do is just the opposite: they look at things as a whole, and understand the complex interactions of our bodily processes. Ayurvedic practices, which have helped to keep me healthy for decades, set the cap for supplemental calcium at 500 mg max/day, while also adding Vitamin K2 (which carries the calcium out of the bloodstream and into bone), magnesium, and Vitamin D3 so the calcium is properly absorbed by the body.

You can see why it’s important to address your calcium intake. Yet it’s admittedly tricky. A friend of mine is lactose intolerant and has been diagnosed as having osteoporosis. She can’t get calcium from dairy products, and you have a eat a truck-load of kale to get enough calcium, yet she needs it for her bones. Fortunately, she is in the care of an “integrative doctor” who understands her needs and has set her on a good nutritional path.

But what about you? Do you take calcium supplements? Do you also take magnesium, K2, and D3? Do you get your other vitamins and minerals from supplements or from food (like juicing tons of veggies a day)? Do you get your important trace minerals from Himalayan salt? Who is overseeing your nutrition? It is highly beneficial to see a holistic practitioner, at least once, who is very knowledgable about diet and supplements and takes into account who you are, your body’s tendencies toward health or disease, your digestive ability, and your food likes, dislikes, and allergies.

It is so important for us all to take responsibility for our health, and especially for the health of our children. It’s not easy when there is so much conflicting or confusing information out there in the blogosphere. Above all, learn to listen to your body. Meditate, and listen even more deeply. You’ll find what you need to know, and be led to those who can help you.

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Labor Day: Celebrate Hard Work!

Labor Day

It is only through labor and painful effort, by grim energy and resolute courage, that we move on to better things. –Theodore Roosevelt

Labor Day, the American holiday that began in the 1800s as a time to honor the everyday working masses, has become an occasion to mark the end of summer with hot dogs, parades, and lots of political speeches. For most, Labor Day is nothing more than a long weekend, but you can always reinvest a holiday with deeper meaning by becoming more conscious of what it means to you.

Is labor the sweat on your brow as you rescue hurricane victims or build a house? Or is it the grinding of your brain cells as you struggle to write a book, design a computer website, or compose a lesson plan for third graders? Those of us who don’t toil in factories or out in the hot sun or wear hard hats to work are also laborers, often in pursuits that are a “labor of love.”

For many women, labor means the hard work involved in birthing a child. The uterus contracts and the labor pains intensify until there is no choice but to open and allow nature to take its course. At least in a “natural” birthing experience, the pain involved is bearable because it has such a positive outcome—a baby. It’s amazing how much our minds control the way we experience pain: if it’s seen as pointless, it hurts a lot more.

Nowadays we do everything possible to avoid pain. Laboring women are given spinals to block the sensations. At work, laws are put into place to protect us from the pain of discrimination or sexual harassment or safety issues. Think of all the “labor-saving” devices we own to keep us from the pain of housework.
I’m sure you would like you and your loved ones to go through life effortlessly and pain-free, but then how would you give birth to your most courageous self and your most creative expressions?

Have you ever created something you were really proud of—a work of art, an intellectual achievement, a refinished piece of furniture, a change in your lifestyle, a new relationship? It took work, didn’t it? You may have labored long and hard to lose those fifty pounds, to perform in public, to get that degree. Undoubtedly, you experienced some pain in the process, but the result was well worth the effort. Or do you avoid projects or situations that seem like they are going to be “labor intensive?”

It’s a good thing your body doesn’t mind laboring. Think of how hard your physical body works—all those internal systems that have to function well for you to be healthy. Pain in the body is a warning signal: something is wrong, broken, sick. Hopefully you listen to the messages your body makes every effort to send you. And think of the effort involved in doing the hard inner work of clearing out old habits, stale beliefs, toxic emotions.

Without labor, without your willingness to undergo some pain and discomfort in the process of changing or creating the circumstances of your life, you would be stuck, stagnating, never getting off the couch or turning off the television. Appreciate the many ways in which you labor, and see what areas of your life require some more effort on your part. Create a ceremony this Labor Day weekend to honor the work you do. Meditate on your willingness to work hard to fulfill your life purpose. And enjoy that hot dog—beef, pork, chicken, turkey, or tofu—while taking a well-deserved day off!

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Meditation

 

“There is no need to go to India or anywhere else to find peace. You will find that deep place of silence right in your room…”

–Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Many people think that the purpose of meditation is to tune out, to get away from it all. While that’s partially true, the real purpose of meditation is actually to tune in. There are gaps between your thoughts, and meditation is a way to get into those gaps, and while you’re there, to connect to the universal energy field—the field of All That Is, source, or God.

The best method of meditation that takes you into the universal field involves internally repeating a mantra. A mantra is an ancient seed sound—a syllable or portion of scripture—that was discovered by very advanced, very wise seers some 5-10,000 years ago and preserved in the ancient Vedic texts. Those wise elders, men and women, were able to determine what sounds would transport us through the portal and into the unified field of all information.

These special sounds, or mantras, are chosen and given to a meditator by their teacher, who uses quite a bit of discernment, training and ritual to choose the right sound for that student in that moment in time. The seed sound is sacred and should be kept private and treated with reverence. Once whispered to a student by a teacher, it should not be spoken aloud by the student, only heard internally. It is not to be told to or taught to others. If I teach you to meditate (which I do online), I send you your personal mantra ahead of time.

When to meditate:

The best times to meditate are 1) when you first wake up in the morning—before coffee or exercise, before breakfast or a shower, before you check your email, before you even leave the bedroom; 2) then again in the evening, right after work and before dinner. If you try to meditate when you’ve just eaten a large meal, or when you’re very sleepy or hungry, it won’t work as well. And meditating after dinner or much after 6:00pm can make it hard to go to sleep afterwards.

What to expect from meditation/what might occur:

Meditation raises your consciousness, and in the process it rights anything that is wrong. This includes issues from your life, including long ago, that you’re working through. With meditation, you’re getting rid of the energy from traumas or the energy of others that is in your system and causing you trouble.

As a result, during meditation, some people will see faces or other images representing traumas or issues they are working through, some will hear sounds, some will feel vibrations or other sensations through their body. This is completely normal and nothing to be concerned about. Just don’t focus on it and simply return to the mantra.

Meditation is not just for the things that are wrong, for processing negative things in your psyche; it is also for everything that’s already right, because it elevates us to perfection. Meditation will make the things that are right for you even better. It turns health around and is life-saving—and it gives you joy.

It also helps develop your connection to other planes and spiritual beings. If you naturally have some perceptive abilities, you will find that the information you receive will become more valid once you begin meditating properly. It’s usually right after you meditate, not during, that you’ll get your best perceptions.

You can also expect to have some pretty wonderful and amazing spiritual experiences when you meditate this way. In fact, an effective meditation practice is the one prerequisite to having what’s known as an initiation—a spiritual step up in consciousness.

The most important reason to meditate

The most important outcome of your meditating for 20 minutes twice a day is that you are helping every other sentient being on the planet. If you want to do your part to save the world—when you hear the news and you see devastating images on your TV or computer screen, or you worry about whatever’s really bothering you—go meditate.

By doing so, you are actually sending out a ripple of your higher consciousness into the unified field that can change the world. Be the change you want to see!

Learn to Meditate with Deborah!

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Open your 2nd Chakra!

Activities to open your 2nd Chakra

  1. Move your body: take 10 minutes and dance by yourself to your favorite music. What movement feels best to you? Slow and sensuous or wildly abandoned? What doesn’t work? What feelings come up when you dance? Get in touch with how you feel when you are moving your body.
  2. Nurture your sensuality: indulge in a yummy treat once a week, luxuriate in a bubble bath or use scented oils, treat yourself to a special lunch with a friend, or . . .
  3. Nurture your sexuality: whether you’re currently with a partner or not, it’s always good to keep the sexual energy moving—use fantasy or erotic books or romantic movies or sexy clothing or flirtatious conversation or . . .
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It’s No Myth: Vampires Are Among Us!

Vampires are among us!

Our culture today is obsessed with vampires! You don’t have to go far to see the latest trendy vampire story. Turn on your television, open a magazine, or walk by the latest billboard on the street…check out some of the top-selling books and yep, vampires are among the storyline subjects! From hit tween television series like The Vampire Diaries to adult drama on HBO’s True Blood to big screen blockbusters such as the Twilight series to Tim Burton’s upcoming flick, Abraham Lincoln, Vampire Hunter, these blood-sucking creatures are everywhere these days!

What is it about vampires that makes them so trendy and captivating?

The reality is, our society has been mesmerized by vampires for centuries. Vampires are not a new phenomenon or trend. From Bram Stoker’s classic 1897 novel, Dracula, to more modern takes like Anne Rice’s popular The Vampire Chronicles, stories of these nocturnal blood-sucking monsters have fascinated and entranced our culture for years and years. Early mythologies and folklore of vampire legends date back centuries to a surge of vampire superstition originating in the Balkans and Eastern Europe and trickling into Western Europe. This vampire superstition in Europe actually led to mass hysteria and in some cases, corpses being staked and people accused of vampirism. The interpretation of the vampire by the Christian Church and subsequent vampire literature, such as an 1819 novella by John Polidori entitled The Vampyre, inspired later works, such as Bram Stoker’s Dracula, which is arguably the basis for most of our modern vampire fiction.

What is it we like about vampires?

People gravitate towards a tragic story and no story is more tragic than that of the vampire – former human beings in normal society, often victims themselves of tragedy or sad circumstance, and unwillingly made into vampires, forced to roam the night, inflict pain on others and take their own victims simply to “survive”. Most people want to root for the vampire and wish them to have a soul and heart. Recent movies and television shows depict vampires trying in earnest to fit into modern society, despite their differences and challenges.

Our society has an obsession with the unknown and a fear of mortality. The vampire lives on forever in immortality so it is a topic that entices our richest imaginations and dreams.

Vampires represent the things our society is afraid of: danger, death, sexual desires, and power. The vampire is a lonely creature, an outsider, and many people identify with the feelings of being the outsider amidst society. Watching how the vampire makes a life for him- or herself gives society hope that we too can find a way to move forward and live, despite any struggles to conform.

The vampires you see on-screen may also be a metaphor for the vampires in your own life, the energy vampires who drain your soul and spirit and suck you dry. These are the real-life vampires to watch out for, who can cause actual harm and damage to you. I’ll be talking more about energy vampires on my Hay House Radio show this Wednesday, August 8, at 5:00pm EDT.

Vampires are the one trend that has outlasted the test of time and do not seem to be going out of style anytime soon. It’s fun to enjoy these supernatural creatures in books and on-screen – Just try to keep the real life energy vampires out of your life and enjoy their fictional counterparts as pure entertainment!

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5 Steps to Get More Energy Today!

5 Steps to Get More Energy Today!

The one commodity we all want is energy: energy to do the things we have to do, like take care of the house, the kids, and the bills, and energy to do the things we love, like sports, shopping, and hobbies. You may have begun complaining you were low energy when you were in your teens or twenties, and that feeling of not enough energy has by now become chronic.

Good news! There are 5 simple steps you can take to reverse the drain on your energy tank, and start filling it every day, rather than continuing to let it be siphoned off.

1. Connect With Others
Nurture your good relationships and end the bad ones. It is important to have close relationships and feel a sense of connection to at least one important person in your life. If you stay in regular contact with people – it doesn’t matter if it is a family member, co-worker, or friend from high school – your energy level will be positively impacted. At the same time, end relationships that are robbing you of energy; disconnect from supposed friends and family that wear you out; life it too short to spend your precious energy on problem people.

If you feel an absence where relationships should be, then I urge you to take steps to fill it. Find a local community group that shares a common interest like gardening or reading; volunteer at a shelter or local campaign office; sign up for dating sites online; be open to opportunities to make new friends and form lasting and meaningful relationships. This connection with others will help you stay energized.

2. Connect With Yourself
Your connection with yourself is just as important as your connection with others. Your own spiritual health is an important component in how much energy you have. If you are connected spiritually to your inner self and higher consciousness, you are far more likely to feel energetic and ready to take on life’s challenges in all of its forms. There are endless ways you can connect with yourself spiritually – whether it’s through meditation, yoga, singing, cooking, pottery, art, prayer, music, sports – the list is endless – so long as you can feel a sense of meaning in life beyond yourself and feel connected to the bigger picture when doing the activity. Take some time every day to engage yourself in something that allows you to step outside your bubble of “me” and loosen the hold of ego. And once you have connected to the deeper, inner parts of yourself, you will find that you will lose your fear of change, which is another drain on your energy.

3. Respect Your Body
While no one is going to be perfectly healthy in every aspect all the time – everyone has some aches and pains at some point or other – you can make a point to protect your health by adopting a healthy lifestyle and choosing to take good care of your body. Do you eat poorly? Do you smoke? Do you drink too much? Do you exercise enough? Do you get enough sleep and fresh air?

You can change your old habits and instill new ones that are healthy and will foster not just better physical health, but increase your energy level. It is said that it only takes 21 days to implant a new habit. In just three short weeks, you can make the positive changes you need to take better care of yourself and your body. Your mind and soul will thank you for it, and you will be connecting not just to yourself, but to all the grace in the universe as well, which is the ultimate source of all energy.

4. The Importance of Touch
Touch is very important to your energy level. Touch keeps the energy flowing and opens up the energetic pathways. Besides touch with an intimate partner, there’s also massage, acupuncture, and other modalities that provide healing touch. The more in-tune your body is with touch, the more in-tune you will be with your overall energy level.

5. Briefly Unplug
When was the last time you gave yourself an hour unplugged? I’m not suggesting there’s anything wrong with being plugged in – I believe that the internet, Facebook and other social sites are a great way to stay connected and, in that respect, are a source of energy. But working an hour or so into your day for meditation, napping, or just hanging out on the porch talking to friends, is a good way to re-energize as it allows your energy field a break from EMFs (electro-magnetic frequencies) that can be fatiguing.

The 21st Century is full of constant drains on our energy levels; life is too short and valuable to feel tired. Try incorporating these five tips into your life starting today and you will be well on your path toward reversing the energy drain and becoming more energized!