February 2026 - Deborah King

The Month Between Lives: Why March Feels Like A Threshold

March has a certain feeling that is hard to name.

The light changes first.
You notice it in the late afternoon, when the sun stays a few minutes longer than it “should.” You notice it in the way your eyes adjust when you walk outside. You notice it in the impatience your body suddenly has for winter clothes, winter food, winter routines.

And then the rest begins to shift.

People often treat March like a calendar bridge. A practical month. A time to push through. A month of taxes, school schedules, meetings, deadlines, and whatever you promised yourself you would fix “after the holidays.”

From an energetic perspective, March is something else entirely.

It is a threshold month.

A month between lives.

That phrase can sound dramatic if you take it literally. But you already know what it feels like. It’s that sensation of being halfway out of the old chapter while the new chapter hasn’t fully arrived. The old identity still fits on paper, but the inside of you is no longer living there. Your schedule continues, your responsibilities keep calling, yet something deeper has started walking away from the old way of being.

This is why March can feel unsettling, even when nothing is “wrong.”

The nervous system recognizes a shift before the mind can narrate it.

Your body senses that you are stepping into a different arc.

Why Transitional Months Stir The Deepest Material

In winter, many people tighten without noticing.

You sleep differently.
You move less.
You brace through obligations.
You stay functional.

The body does what it has to do.

Then the light returns and the field begins to thaw. That thawing is not only physical. It is emotional. It is spiritual. It is the soul pressing up against the skin of your daily life, asking for more space.

When people say they feel restless in March, they usually try to fix it by doing more. They clean closets, start diets, reorganize calendars, join a gym. Those actions can be fine. But restlessness is often not a productivity problem.

It is an identity problem.

The inner self is trying to move forward, while the outer life is still arranged around older agreements.

March is when those older agreements start to feel loud.

You can feel it in small places:

You say yes to something you used to say yes to, and it tastes wrong in your mouth.
You sit in a conversation you’ve had a hundred times, and you feel your energy pull back.
You look at a plan you made months ago and wonder why you ever wanted it.

This is not you becoming difficult.

This is you becoming honest.

Honesty begins as discomfort.

The Strange Grief That Doesn’t Have A Story

March also stirs grief.

Not always the kind of grief you can point to. Sometimes it’s a quiet heaviness. A sadness that arrives without permission. A tenderness that makes you tear up over something small. A memory that surfaces while you’re folding laundry or driving in silence.

People often judge themselves for this.

They say, “Nothing happened. Why am I sad?”
They try to talk themselves out of it.
They distract.

But grief does not ask for your logic. Grief is an energy that moves when the nervous system finally has enough space to release.

In winter, you survive. In early spring, you begin to feel.

That feeling can bring up the parts of your life that have been waiting for your attention.

A relationship that never healed properly.
A dream you quietly buried.
A version of you that learned to settle.

March is when the deeper self starts to ask, are we really going to live this same year again?

March And The Geometry Of Choice Points

This is where the spiritual mechanics become useful.

Most people think of change as something large. A dramatic decision. A big conversation. A leap.

Real change often begins as a choice point.

A choice point is a moment where you have a pause, even a small one, and you realize you are about to repeat an old pattern. The old response is right there. Familiar. Automatic. Comfortable in a twisted way.

But something else is present too.

Space.

And in that space, a different trajectory becomes available.

March produces choice points.

It does it through irritability.
Through restlessness.
Through fatigue.
Through sudden clarity.
Through dreams that feel like messages.
Through the quiet awareness that your old life is too small for you now.

Choice points don’t announce themselves with a trumpet.

They show up as a simple moment where you either tell the truth or you swallow it again.

They show up when you either rest or you keep pushing.

They show up when you either stop rehearsing the same fear or you feed it one more time.

Choice points are how timelines shift.

Not because reality is a toy. Because reality responds to what you repeatedly strengthen inside yourself.

When you repeat an old state, you strengthen an old arc. When you stabilize coherence, you strengthen a different arc. Over time, those arcs become the life you live.

This is one reason March can feel like a month between lives.

It is the month where the inner self begins negotiating a new trajectory.

What “Between Lives” Can Look Like In A Normal Week

You might feel unusually tired, even with enough sleep.

Your system is recalibrating. It is dropping old tension patterns that were holding you together. When those patterns release, the body needs rest. People often label that as laziness. It’s not. It’s integration.

You might feel like you don’t want to talk to certain people.

That doesn’t mean you are becoming selfish. It often means your field is trying to protect coherence. There are relationships that pull you back into an older version of yourself. The inner self notices that before you do.

You might feel a pull toward simplicity.

Less noise. Less explaining. Less forcing. More quiet. More structure. More truth.

You might feel an old wound reappear.

Not to torture you. To be completed.

This is where many people get lost. They think a wound returning means they failed. Often it means you have enough strength now to finish the healing that was too much for you earlier.

March can be a month of completion.

Completion does not always look like celebration. Sometimes it looks like tears you didn’t know you were holding.

A Simple Practice For March Threshold Energy

If March has you feeling unsettled, don’t rush to fix it.

Work with it.

Here is a simple practice you can use in five minutes.

Sit down.
Feet on the floor.
One hand on the upper chest, near the thymus.
One hand over the heart.

Take a slow breath.

Ask yourself quietly:

“What is trying to change in me right now?”

Do not force an answer.

Let the body speak first.

You might feel a tightening. A heaviness. A heat. A pull forward. A pull back.

Then ask:

“What am I pretending is fine?”

This question cuts through spiritual bypassing very quickly.

Let one sentence appear.

Not a paragraph.
Not a story.
One sentence.

Then ask:

“What is the next honest step I can take without burning my life down?”

This matters.

A choice point doesn’t require destruction. It requires coherence.

Your next step might be a boundary.
A conversation.
A day of rest.
A decision to stop rehearsing the same fear.
A promise you keep to yourself quietly.

Now place a hand on the center of your chest and say out loud:

“I will not abandon myself this season.”

Say it once.

Let your system register that you mean it.

That is how you start walking into a new arc.

Why This Matters For The Timelines You’re Living

Some patterns don’t belong to one year.

They repeat across many years.

Some even carry a strange familiarity that feels older than your current life.

A fear you can’t explain.
A grief that seems to come from nowhere.
A relationship pattern that feels inevitable.
A sense of being pulled into the same kind of ending again and again.

If March feels like a threshold, it may be because you’re ready to stop repeating something.

That level of change benefits from a strong container. A structure that understands the difference between spiritual curiosity and real transformation. A space where you can work with past lives, parallel expressions of self, and the deeper mechanics of trajectory, without getting lost in fantasy or getting trapped in self-blame.

That is exactly what I teach in my Shift Network course:

Timelines of Ascension: Mastering Past Lives, Parallel Realities & the New Earth Timeline.

If you feel March pressing on you, if you feel the old life loosening, if you sense that your next chapter is trying to arrive but your system doesn’t know how to hold it yet, this course will give you the structure.

You will learn how to recognize choice points, how to stop feeding old arcs, how to integrate the parts of you that feel split, and how to stabilize a higher trajectory in a way that shows up in real life.

Your life is not a fixed track.

And March is not just a month.

It’s a doorway.

If you’re ready to walk through it consciously, join me on The Shift Network for Timelines of Ascension.

When The Body Speaks For Your Soul: The Spiritual Side Of Seasonal Illness

Late winter has a very specific sound.

Coughs in grocery lines.
Kids sniffling on the sofa.
Adults dragging themselves through work with a sore throat and a cup of tea.

Most people treat this as background noise. A nuisance. A yearly inconvenience to push through until the weather changes.

From an energetic point of view, seasonal illness is also a broadcast.
The body is speaking for the soul.

It uses the lungs, the sinuses, the throat, the skin, the gut. It repeats itself at the same time of year, sometimes with the same symptom, until we are willing to listen to what the deeper part of ourselves have been trying to say.

Why Illness Loves A Season

Look at your own history for a moment.

Do you tend to get sick:

right after the holidays,
every time a certain anniversary rolls around,
or whenever you hit a particular emotional season such as tax time, school events, family gatherings?

Patterns like that are rarely random.

Seasonal illness often shows up when the field is already loaded.

You carry stress from the previous months (and years).
You override fatigue.
You stuff feelings down to “get through” busy events.
You make promises to yourself that get buried under obligation.

By the time February arrives, the body has been absorbing everything.

If the soul has not found another way to get your attention, it will recruit the immune system.

Illness is not punishment. It is interruption.
A temporary pause that says, “What you are carrying is too much. Something needs to change.”

The Language Of Symptoms

Each area of the body speaks a slightly different dialect.
I will share a few patterns I see often and it is not medical diagnosis. It is a spiritual map you can explore alongside appropriate care.

Sore throat and laryngitis.
Truth trapped between the heart and the mouth. Words unsaid. Strong opinions swallowed to keep the peace. Years of “I’ll let it go” layered into one small, inflamed area.
Persistent cough and tight chest.
Grief that has not been fully cried. Old sadness. Disappointment about the way life turned out in a certain chapter. A sense of carrying other people’s sorrow as if it were your job.
Sinus congestion and heavy head.
Overthinking. Too much mental planning. Little space for spiritual input. A life run from the forehead instead of from the heart and gut.
Fever and intense fatigue.
A system that has reached its limit. Old patterns burning and releasing. The soul pulling you horizontal because you would never lie down on your own.

Every body is different.
Your personal history, health, ancestry, and environment matter.

Yet when the same symptom returns in the same season, it is wise to ask, “What is my body saying that I have refused to say out loud?”

The Sore Throat That Comes Every February

Let’s take one example.

Many students tell me, “I get a sore throat at this time every year. It always happens around the same week.”

From an energy perspective, the throat chakra is the bridge between inner truth and outer expression. It holds:

your ability to say yes and no,
your creativity,
your prayers,
and the sound of your authentic voice.

When the throat keeps getting inflamed in the same season, I look at:

conversations that are avoided,
obligations accepted with resentment,
yearly events where you feel you must play a role that no longer fits.

The body may be trying to burn through all the unsaid words at once.

If this resonates, you might sit with a hand on your throat and ask quietly, “What am I tired of swallowing?” Then write whatever comes in a private journal. You do not have to share it yet. Giving the truth a place on paper already relieves the pressure inside the tissue.

A Simple Practice When You Get Sick (Alongside Your Tea And Medicine)

Any time symptoms show up, take care of yourself in practical ways. Rest. Hydrate. You may want to consult your doctor, nurse, or other licensed provider.

Alongside that, treat the illness as a message from your deeper self.

Here is a short practice you can use:

Name the symptom honestly.
“My throat hurts.” “I can’t stop coughing.” “My body is exhausted.”
Ask, without forcing, “What does this feel like emotionally?”
Use simple words. Raw. Sad. Angry. Trapped. Lonely. Overwhelmed.
Track what was happening in the weeks before you got sick.
A fight, a boundary you overrode, a difficult season at work, a memory that surfaced and never got processed.
Let one sentence of truth appear.
It might sound like, “I’m tired of carrying this family alone.”
Or, “I never wanted this job.”
Or, “I still haven’t forgiven what happened.”
Place a hand on the area that hurts and speak that sentence out loud, gently.
You are not blaming anyone. You are letting your body know you heard it.

This is quiet work.
You can do it lying in bed with a blanket around you and a cup of broth nearby.

The goal is not to force yourself into perfection. The goal is to stop making the body carry the full weight of what the soul already knows.

Supporting The Body As You Listen

Your physical system is a partner in your spiritual practice. Treat it that way.

You might:

drink warm water with lemon while placing a hand on your chest,
let yourself nap without guilt,
listen to gentle chanting or instrumental music that soothes your nervous system.

As you rest, say things like:

“Body, thank you for slowing me down.”
“I hear you. I’m listening now.”
“You do not have to scream every time. I will pay attention sooner.”

You are building trust with your cells.

Over time, as you respond earlier and more kindly, the body does not need to use such dramatic signals to get your attention.

This Is Spiritual Education, Not Medical Advice

I’ll say this clearly.

If you have persistent, severe, or frightening symptoms, seek medical support.
Use the tools of this world. Doctors, nurses, emergency care, herbs, rest. Whatever responsible action is appropriate for your situation.

The perspective I’m sharing here is an extra lens, not a replacement.

Many students tell me that understanding the energetic side of illness helps them follow through on practical care. They feel less afraid and more engaged with their own healing. They become partners with their practitioners instead of passive recipients.

You may want to share your questions with your healthcare team.
You may also want to ask for spiritual or emotional support from people you trust.

You are allowed to use every layer of help available.

When Seasonal Illness Points To A Deeper Pattern

Sometimes a winter cold is simply a cold.

Sometimes it carries a message like, “Slow down for a week. You pushed too hard.”

And sometimes it is the tip of a much older tangle.

If you find that:

you get sick in the same way every year,
the downtime always reveals the same grief, fear, or anger,
or your body has been trying to speak about the same issue for a very long time,

then you may be looking at a pattern that lives across multiple years, and possibly multiple lifetimes.

That level of work benefits from a strong container.

A place where you can step out of your roles.
A field that understands healing.
Hands and hearts that can hold you through release without losing the thread.

Giving Your Body Four Days Of Sacred Reset

This spring, I’ll be holding a retreat at The Casa Renewal Center in Scottsdale, from May 14 through May 17.

The Casa has held decades of meditation, spiritual teaching, and service. The land there knows what it means to help people lay burdens down. The air is dry and clear. The paths wind through desert plants and quiet corners. There is a labyrinth, a healing garden, and spaces simply to sit and breathe.

Over those four days, we will work together with:

the energy patterns behind chronic exhaustion and seasonal illness,
the emotional weight you have been carrying in your lungs, throat, and heart,
and the vows and contracts that keep you saying yes when your body is begging for rest.

You will receive support from me and from the LifeForce Energy Healing^® Team.
You will have time between sessions to lie by the pool, visit the spa, or walk the grounds while your system integrates.

Retreat is not a reward for being healthy.
It is a hospital for the soul, a place where your body can finally exhale without needing to get sick to force the pause.

If something in you lights up at the thought of giving your body that kind of care, consider joining me in Scottsdale.

Or, you may discover that the “seasonal illness” you thought was random was actually a yearly invitation to deeper alignment, waiting for a container that could truly hold it.

Feeling that something deeper is at play when you get sick? It might be time to understand how your body is communicating on a spiritual level.

Join Deborah for her course with The Shift Network – Timelines of Ascension – to learn what could be impacting your health, your life, and the patterns that you seem to keep repeating.

Pilgrimage vs Vacation: Why Your Soul Needs Sacred Time Away

Most people use time off to collapse.

Phone off. Snacks on the lounge chair. One eye on the clock for the next meal. You come home with a few nice photos and the same knot in your chest you had before you left.

There’s another way to travel.

You step out of your life for a few days and something inside you reorients. Old vows loosen. Your body remembers how it feels to be guided. You return carrying a different inner map than the one you left with.

That kind of journey has a name: Pilgrimage.

What Ordinary Time Off Actually Delivers

I’m not against simple rest. Your nervous system needs downtime. But look honestly at how normal vacations often play out.

You cram in work before you leave. You sprint through airports or traffic. You arrive in a place built for consumption, not spiritual repair.

You distract yourself for a few days. Then you return to the same field of unfinished conversations, old patterns, and spiritual fatigue. The cast of characters didn’t change. The contracts in your energy didn’t either.

The body may feel a little looser. The soul still feels hungry.

What Turns A Trip Into Pilgrimage

Pilgrimage is different at the level of intention and energy.

Three things matter here:

Why you’re going.
Where you’re going.
What field you’re stepping into when you arrive.

Pilgrimage begins the moment you decide: “I need sacred time away. I’m leaving for the sake of my soul, my healing, and my service.”

You’re not escaping life. You’re stepping out of your routine so you can meet life at a deeper level.

The place itself also matters.

For centuries people walked to shrines, holy wells, and dream temples. They slept on stone floors. They bathed in certain springs. They left offerings. Those sites became charged by repetition. Each pilgrim added another layer of prayer and surrender to the land.

When you enter a space like that, you feel it before anyone says a word. Your breath changes. Your spine lengthens without effort. The body understands it is somewhere that remembers how to heal.

The Casa As A Modern Pilgrimage Site

The Casa in Scottsdale, AZ, is a contemporary version of that kind of place.

For more than seventy years, people have gone there to pray, study, release, listen, and choose a different way forward. That much spiritual use leaves an imprint in the buildings and in the ground. When you walk the paths, you’re not alone. You’re walking with the memory of everyone who came before you to tell the truth and start again.

This May, from the 14th through the 17th, I’ll be holding a four-day retreat there.

You arrive on Thursday afternoon. You check into your room, share dinner, and then sit down in our opening evening session. From that moment on, the field is working with you.

Across the next days you’ll move between:

Guided meditations that reach into old timelines and contracts.
Advanced energy healing practices you’ll apply in real time, with my support and the LifeForce Energy Healing® Team beside you.
Transformative healing sessions, including your own.
Quiet time in the labyrinth, the healing garden, the desert walkways, the pool, so your body can integrate what we stir up in session.

One evening we’ll gather around a fire for connection. Simple on the outside. Extremely powerful in the field. Fire has been part of spiritual work since long before we had language for “inner child” or “chakra.”

You sleep on the land each night. You wake up still inside the same container you worked in the day before. There is no drop into ordinary static and back out again. Your system stays in the conversation.

That is pilgrimage.

The Kinds Of Patterns Pilgrimage Can Touch

Time off at a resort can soothe your nerves. A pilgrimage-style retreat reaches deeper scripts.

Think about the themes we’ve been exploring:

Open loops you drag from month to month.
Old vows and relationship patterns that keep you in the same role with different faces.
Symptoms in the body that return every season with the same message.

Some of these will shift through the practices you do at home. Journaling. Saying no when you usually say yes. Simple rituals at your altar. All of that is important.

Other patterns feel like they’re grafted into your field.

You can feel them in the bones.

Those often need a place where:

You’re away from your usual roles.
The land knows how to hold catharsis and change.
The group and the teacher are all oriented toward healing and service.

Scottsdale was chosen for that reason.

The Casa gives us a container where you can safely look at vows you made in other eras, contracts you inherited from your lineage, and promises you made to yourself that are draining you now. We can work with them without having to worry about cooking dinner, answering constant messages, or performing your normal life.

Signs Your Soul Is Asking For Pilgrimage, Not Another Break

You don’t need a psychic reading to know this. Your body is already telling you.

You may be ready for pilgrimage if:

The idea of more ordinary time off feels flat, even a little depressing.
You catch yourself fantasizing more about silence, stars, and ceremony than about buffets and crowded beaches.
You keep seeing the same themes show up in your life no matter how you rearrange the furniture.
A part of you whispers, “I need help with this. I can’t shift it alone from my couch.”

You might also notice small “calls” around Scottsdale itself. A sudden memory of the desert. Dreams with dry air, stone paths, or circles of people working together. An unexpected sense of recognition when you see photos of The Casa.

These are gentle hints. The soul rarely yells.

Giving Yourself Permission To Go

For many sensitive people, permission is the biggest hurdle.

It can feel extravagant to travel for your spirit instead of for family, business, or entertainment. The old vows I talked about in the last blog post often get loud here… vows of sacrifice, vows of self-erasure, vows that say “everyone else first.”

Here is the truth.

When you realign at the soul level, everyone in your life feels the benefit. You become clearer. Kinder. Less resentful. More accurate about what is yours to carry and what is not.

Pilgrimage is not selfish. It is maintenance for the part of you that holds everything together.

You are allowed to step away from routine to meet your own life with reverence.

Sacred travel changes us because it interrupts routine.

But what if you could interrupt a pattern without leaving home?

What if the true pilgrimage is stepping out of fate-based repetition and into conscious timeline choice?

In my upcoming free event, Escaping Your Timeline Loop, I’ll share how nonlinear time operates — and how to recognize the moment a familiar pattern is about to begin.

You don’t need a passport.

You need awareness.

Join me here >>

Love, Old Vows, and the Heart Field: Why Your Relationships Feel So Familiar

There is a certain kind of relationship that feels like déjà vu.

You meet someone and your system reacts before your mind catches up. Your chest tightens or softens. You feel drawn in, or wary, or strangely responsible, and you can’t explain why.

Then, a few weeks or months later, you catch yourself saying, “I can’t believe I’m here again.”

Different face. Same story.

From an energetic perspective, that familiarity is rarely random. It often points to old vows and unfinished contracts sitting in your heart field, quietly shaping who you choose, what you tolerate, and how quickly you abandon yourself to keep the connection.

Let’s talk about that.

Your Heart Has A Memory

The physical heart is a powerful organ, but the heart field extends far beyond the chest.

It’s the energetic atmosphere around you that holds:

your deepest longings,
core beliefs about love and worth,
and the imprints of old heartbreak and devotion.

This field remembers across time.

Mystics have written about it for thousands of years. Sufi poets, medieval Christian mystics, tantric practitioners in India… all describing a place within the chest that seems to hold stories from other lifetimes, other lands, other names.

When you meet someone and feel an instant charge, your heart field is reacting to:

familiar energetic signatures,
chords from earlier lives,
echoes of old vows.

You’re not crazy. You’re remembering.

Old Vows Hiding In Modern Stories

Many souls carry vows and contracts from other incarnations that made sense then and cause trouble now.

A few examples I see often:

A vow to caretake at any cost. Long ago you might have been a healer, a priestess, a monk in charge of the sick. In this life that vow can turn into relationships where you overgive, attract wounded partners, and forget your own needs.
A vow to never abandon a certain soul again. Maybe you lost someone tragically in another incarnation. Now you meet them and feel an instant, binding loyalty. Even when the relationship becomes draining or harmful, you stay, because some part of you remembers the loss and refuses to repeat it.
A vow of sacred loneliness. Some spiritual lineages prized isolation. A commitment to God meant turning away from human love. In this life, that can show up as choosing unavailable partners, or watching healthy love approach and pulling back at the last second.

These vows sit like embroidery in the heart field. They influence what feels “normal” without ever being spoken.

How Old Vows Shape Your Patterns Now

You can usually spot an old vow by the repetition and intensity of the pattern around it.

Look at your relationship history and ask yourself:

Where do I keep ending up in the same role?
Where do I feel obligated far beyond what’s reasonable?
Where does guilt appear the moment I consider leaving or changing the dynamic?
Where do I feel “chosen,” then slowly erased?

Old vows often create an inner script that sounds like:

“I’m responsible for their healing.”
“If I leave, they’ll fall apart.”
“I owe them my loyalty, no matter what.”
“Love means accepting pain.”

Your mind can list every reason this isn’t healthy. The heart field still pulls you in.

Think of it as an older contract overruling your current intentions.

A Simple Heart Field Inquiry

You don’t need to see past lives like a movie for this work to begin.

Try this gentle practice:

Sit somewhere quiet. Place one hand over your chest, the other over your belly. Let your breath slow down.
Bring to mind one relationship pattern that feels familiar. It might be romantic, family, friendship, or even a work dynamic.
Notice what happens in your body as you think of it. Chest tightness. Heat in the face. A swirl in the stomach. Just observe.
Ask inwardly: “Where did I learn to love like this?”

Don’t push. Let images, phrases, or impressions rise. You might see a scene from childhood. You might feel an older era. You might simply hear a sentence such as “I promised” or “Never again.”
Ask: “What is the vow here?”

Listen for words like “always,” “never,” “forever,” “no matter what.” Old vows often carry that kind of absolute language.
Finally, ask: “Is this still true for who I am now?”

Sometimes the answer is a clear yes. More often, a part of you sighs with relief at the thought that you could live by a different agreement.

You don’t have to force anything. Simply bringing the vow into consciousness starts to loosen its grip.

Writing A New Agreement With Your Heart

Once you sense the old vow, you can begin to write a new one that honors your growth.

You might say:

“I release the vow to abandon myself for love.
I honor the devotion behind it.
I choose a new agreement where love includes my well-being, my truth, and my path.”

Or:

“I release the vow to carry someone else’s healing alone.
I bless the service I once gave.
I choose partnerships where each soul owns its journey.”

It can help to write the old vow and the new one on paper.

Burn the old one in a safe way. Keep the new one near your altar, your mirror, or under your pillow for a while.

Ritual speaks to the heart field more clearly than analysis.

When Love Patterns Need A Stronger Field

Some vows respond quickly to this kind of quiet work. Others feel welded to your ribs.

If you notice that:

the same painful dynamic appears in every serious relationship,
you feel panic at the idea of leaving, even when you know it’s right,
or your heart shuts down any time someone safe approaches,

then you may be dealing with a multi-lifetime contract that needs a stronger container.

These are the patterns I love to work with in retreat space.

In May, I’ll be gathering students at The Casa Franciscan Renewal Center in Scottsdale for four days of deep energy work, guided meditations, and sacred time on land that has held spiritual practice for many years. One of the threads we’ll be addressing is exactly this… old vows and relationship imprints in the heart field.

In a setting like Scottsdale, your system is held from morning to night.

You’re supported by the LifeForce Energy Healing® Team and like-minded healers and seekers. You have the labyrinth, the healing garden, the quiet desert paths, evenings of song and connection, and the safety of a community that understands this level of work.

That combination makes it much easier to:

surface old vows without collapsing,
grieve what needs to be grieved,
and anchor new agreements in your body, not just in your mind.

If you’ve recognized yourself in these patterns, and you’re tired of repeating the same love story with different names, I’d be honored to work with you in person there.

You can reserve your spot by clicking here >>

Whether you join us in Scottsdale or start with the simple practice above, remember this:

Your heart is allowed to update its contracts. Devotion can stay. Self-abandonment does not have to.

You are here to love from a place that includes your soul, your truth, and your path.

Closing Open Loops: How To Stop Carrying Unfinished Energies Into Every New Month

Even when the calendar turns, the energy often doesn’t shift.

You can set intentions, clear your desk, pull cards, even celebrate a New Moon and still feel like you’re dragging something heavy behind you. There’s that quiet sense of “I’m already tired,” even though the month has barely started.

Spiritually, that feeling often comes from open loops.

Conversations that never really finished.
Decisions you keep postponing.
Projects that live in folders but not in form.
Emotional scenes your body still replays at night.

Your nervous system holds all of this the way an old computer holds too many tabs. Everything slows. Inner guidance feels faint. The body stays slightly braced, as if something important is about to happen, yet it never quite lands.

If you want February to feel different than January, you don’t need more pressure or more goals. You need a simple way to close open loops, both energetic and practical, so your field has room to breathe again.

What Are “Open Loops” Energetically?

Psychologists talk about the Zeigarnik effect, where the mind keeps unfinished tasks active in the background. Your energy field has a similar habit.

An open loop forms any time energy starts to move and doesn’t find a resting place.

Moments like these:

You tell yourself you’ll leave a draining situation, then stay quiet.
You compose a message asking for forgiveness, then never send it.
You commit to a practice your body loves, then fade out without making a clear decision.
You feel anger, grief, or hurt rise up, then push it down and move on without giving it space.

Nothing gets truly resolved. Nothing gets blessed.

One or two of these don’t seem like much. Over weeks and months, they collect.
The field becomes crowded with half-finished threads, and any new cycle has to push its way through that tangle before it can really open.

Signs You’re Carrying Too Many Open Loops

You don’t have to dig through your whole life story. Start with how you feel as the month turns.

Common signs include:

A restless feeling that doesn’t match your actual schedule
A sense of drag when you consider simple, everyday tasks
Low-level guilt for things you can’t clearly name
Staying busy to avoid one specific thought, person, or choice
Feeling behind even when your outer to-do list looks reasonable

Open loops rarely shout. They hum in the background and quietly chew on your life force.

So let’s work with them.

Step 1: Name What’s Still Hanging

The first step is honest inventory.

You’re not judging yourself. You’re letting your field show you where energy is still actively circling.

Take a page and draw four columns with these headings:

Conversations
Commitments
Intentions / Projects
Emotional Moments

Let your memory move through the last month or two and write what rises. No editing.

Under Conversations, list people you feel “off” with. Words left unsaid. Conflicts you keep replaying. Avoidance.
Under Commitments, write promises you made to others or to yourself that you’ve been delaying or ignoring.
Under Intentions / Projects, note ideas, plans, or creative starts that never got a clear yes or no.
Under Emotional Moments, list scenes that still have a charge in your body… a look, a comment, a freeze response, a grief spike that never got a real container.

Your energy already holds this list. Putting it on paper doesn’t create new problems, it reveals what has been running in the background.

If the page fills quickly, that simply tells you how much you’ve been carrying alone.

Step 2: Sort Your Loops

Now you’ll sort the list so your system knows what to do with each thread. Go back through every item and mark it with one letter:

C for Complete
K for Keep
L for Let Go
D for Decide Later

C – Complete

These are loops you can bring to a clean landing soon.

Respond to the message. Pay the small bill. Book the medical appointment. Return the borrowed item.

Completion here doesn’t mean a perfect story. It means, “I did the part that belongs to me.” Your integrity gets to relax.

K – Keep

These are commitments and projects that still feel alive. They match your deeper values for this season, even if they’ve been neglected.

You’re not closing these. You’re choosing them again.

Give each one a simple next step and a clear place in your life: a time block on your calendar, a folder at the front of your desk, a reminder by your meditation cushion. Living energy needs a container if you want it to grow instead of haunt you.

L – Let Go

These are the plans your ego loves and your body resists. Obligations made from fear. Roles that once fit and now feel tight.

Closure here is mostly inner.

You release yourself from the promise. You forgive the version of you who agreed to it. You stop using spiritual language to justify staying in something that drains you.

You might write a simple release for each:

“I release this commitment. It no longer matches who I am now. May everyone involved be guided to what truly serves them.”

Then you follow through in whatever small, honest way is needed in the outer world.

D – Decide Later

Some items are too layered to rush. You don’t need to force a decision tonight.

Mark those with D. Then assign each one a date. “I’ll revisit this on February 8.” Put that date in your calendar so the loop is held by time instead of by constant worry.

You’re giving big questions a safe container instead of dragging them into every day.

Step 3: Create a Loop-Closing Ritual

Now you move from mental sorting into energy work.

Choose a quiet evening before the new month begins, or in the first few days if you’re already inside it. Light a candle if that feels right. Plant your feet, feel the floor, and let your breath slow a little.

Bring your list.

You’ll work through each letter with clear intention. You’re letting your system know what happens next with each thread.

For C Items (Complete)

Place your hand over that section and say out loud:

“I’m willing to bring these into form. Show me the next action and help me follow through.”

Then pick one easy step to take within a day. One message. One payment. One practical move. Action clears fog.

For K Items (Keep)

You’re telling your field that these deserve ongoing care.

Circle them. Then ask, “What supports this in a real way?” You might create a recurring time block, move one project into a special folder, or share your commitment with someone you trust.

You can speak:

“I choose to keep nourishing these. Help me support them in a way that respects my body and my energy.”

For L Items (Let Go)

This part can touch grief or anger. Let the feelings have some room.

You might write each one on a small scrap of paper and place them in a bowl of water, salt, or earth.

As you release each, say:

“I release this loop. I release myself. I release everyone involved. May this energy return to its right place in peace.”

You’re closing doors in consciousness, even if external details take time to catch up.

For D Items (Decide Later)

Touch each question on the list. Feel it briefly, then say:

“I place this into sacred timing. I’ll meet it on the day I’ve chosen. I don’t need to carry it every hour until then.”

You are honoring the importance of the decision without letting it drain you daily.

When you finish, sit for a minute and simply notice. Many people feel the breath drop, the jaw soften, the chest widen slightly. That is your body recognizing closure.

Living With Fewer Open Loops

You don’t have to wait until the end of the month to do this. Once you feel the relief, loop-closing can become part of your ordinary spiritual hygiene.

You might close one small loop each Friday. Or do a shorter version of this process at each New Moon. Or simply pause on Sunday evenings and name one conversation, one task, and one emotional moment you’re ready to bring to rest.

Each loop you close returns a little life force. Intuition grows clearer. The new month no longer arrives on top of a pile of unresolved yesterdays.

You step into February with cleaner edges and more space for what actually belongs to you now.

When You Need A Stronger Container to Help With the Big Loops

Some loops are simple. A bill, a call, a lingering email. They clear with a list, a candle, and a little courage.

Others are woven through years.

Old trauma. Grief that never had a real ceremony. Relationship patterns that repeat every season, no matter how sincere your intentions are. Promises you made in another chapter of your life that your body is still trying to keep.

These deeper loops often need more than a quiet evening at your kitchen table.

They respond to a live field, strong guidance, and time away from the noise of your daily life.

That’s why I hold in-person retreats.

In May, I’ll be gathering students at The Casa Franciscan Renewal Center in Scottsdale for four days of intensive energy work, guided meditations, and time on land that has held spiritual practice for many decades.

We’ll be working directly with the kind of long-running patterns that keep showing up on your list, even after you journal, pray, and promise yourself things will be different.

Over those days, you’ll have support from me and the LifeForce Energy Healing^® Team. Your body will have space to unwind. You’ll sit in circle with others who are serious about their healing and their service. The prayer paths, the healing garden, the desert air at night… all of that becomes part of the container.

It’s a pilgrimage space where loops you were never meant to carry alone can finally soften, shift, or close.

If you’re tired of hauling the same unfinished energies into every new month, consider joining me in Scottsdale this May.

You can do so by clicking here >>

Your soul already knows which loops are asking for that level of care.

And if you feel called to one-on-one support alongside retreat work, you can also explore private sessions with a LifeForce Energy Healing^® certified practitioner, who can help you work with cords, old stories, and ancestral weight at a deeper level.

Either way, you don’t have to keep dragging everything with you.

You’re allowed to travel lighter.

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Deborah King