Healing Others Without Losing Yourself
One of the most common questions I hear from students (especially those beginning to work with others energetically) is this: “Why do I feel so drained after a session?”
The answer is rarely what they expect.
They assume they did something wrong. Or that the client was too much. Or that their energy just needs to be stronger.
But what’s usually happening is this: they were never taught how to hold space without absorbing. They were never taught how to recognize entanglement before it takes root.
They were never taught that helping doesn’t always mean healing. And that without structure, helping can actually slow a client’s progress and deplete the practitioner in the process.
Sensitivity Is Not Enough
I’ve met thousands of students over the years who identify as highly sensitive. They feel things others don’t. They pick up emotional undercurrents in a room. They absorb other people’s moods, often without realizing it.
These gifts are real. But they are not the same as being ready to work in someone else’s energy field.
Working with energy requires more than empathy. It requires training. You need to know how to stay rooted in your own system while supporting someone else’s release. Otherwise, your boundaries become permeable.
Their grief becomes your fatigue. Their fear settles into your field. Over time, that creates confusion, burnout, and a complete breakdown in the practitioner-client relationship.
The Energy Field Is Not a Metaphor
When I teach students how to sense the human energy field, one of the first things I emphasize is that we’re not working with an idea. We’re working with a functional system. One that holds memory, pattern, trauma, belief, and spiritual data. Just because it isn’t visible doesn’t mean it’s abstract.
Think of what happens in talk therapy when a client begins to cry. The therapist doesn’t just sit back and watch. They hold presence. They track emotion. They adjust pacing. All of that is energetic…even in modalities that don’t call it that.
Now take that same emotional release and translate it into a direct energetic session. The client’s energy field opens. Information rises. Emotional residue begins to surface. The practitioner’s system, if not properly grounded, will react. If they aren’t trained to clear or stabilize, they may confuse what’s rising in them with what’s being released in the client.
That’s how energy healing becomes a cycle of mutual overwhelm. That’s not service. That’s co-processing.
A Cautionary Pattern
I’ve seen it happen over and over again: a student has a powerful experience in Level I or Level II. They begin to feel more connected, more open, more intuitive. They sense things during meditation. They pick up energetic information in conversation. They help a friend release an old emotional wound and feel the thrill of being useful.
So they start offering sessions. They mean well. But within a few months, they’re exhausted. Their own healing work has stalled. Their nervous system is dysregulated. Their relationships are fraying. They begin to question their gifts.
The problem isn’t that they’re not gifted. The problem is that they moved into advanced work without the foundation to hold it.
This is why I always tell students: just because the light is coming in doesn’t mean the structure is ready to carry it.
Service Requires Skill
You don’t need to be perfect to help others. But you do need to be clear. You need to understand what you’re holding and what’s not yours to carry. You need to know when your own field has become compromised…and how to reset it. You need to be able to recognize when your “insight” is actually projection, and when your fatigue is a signal that a boundary wasn’t held.
I’ve seen powerful healers do real damage because they didn’t recognize these dynamics. Not out of malice. Out of enthusiasm. Out of love. But love, in this work, is not enough.
You must pair it with discernment. With boundaries. With training that teaches you what your field can hold, and how to support transformation without becoming the container for someone else’s pain.
What Happens When You Train Properly
In the advanced levels of my LifeForce Energy Healing® program, I teach students how to build a safe energetic structure for client work. They learn how to prepare before a session, how to assess the field, how to detect blockage versus trauma storage, how to clear without entangling, and how to close down properly afterward. They learn how to work with spirit, not through force or rescue energy.
And most importantly, they learn how to stay centered in themselves, no matter what arises.
That’s not abstract. It’s trainable.
I’ve watched students go from disoriented and overwhelmed to clear, confident, and precise. They don’t need to overtalk during sessions. They don’t need to absorb in order to connect. They know how to let energy move without making it about them.
That’s not just professionalism. That’s integrity. And it’s the only way to do this work sustainably.
If You’re Ready to Do the Work For Real
If you feel the pull to go deeper with your energy work… not just in your own healing, but in how you show up for others…
I invite you to attend the upcoming Level IV Open House. It’s happening on Thursday, June 5th at 2pm PDT.
This isn’t a sales event. It’s a real gathering.
You’ll hear from students who are walking the path now. You’ll see how the structure works. And you’ll get a feel for what it means to step into a yearlong container of energetic training. Not just as a student, but as a practitioner in the making.
Click here to RSVP for the Level IV Open House >>
If you’re already helping others (or want to) this is how you make sure you can do it without sacrificing your own well-being.
Healing others is sacred work. But it’s not neutral. You need to know what you’re doing. And you need a place to grow as the healer you’re becoming.
If that’s where you are… come to the Open House. See if this is your next step.
I’ll be there. And if you feel the pull, I hope you will too.
