ANNA-NICOLE SMITH

What could Anna-Nicole Smith have done differently to avoid such an untimely death?

I wish I could have been there for her, so that she could have begun the process of turning her life around from tragedy to happiness. She had all the earmarks of an abusive childhood; on one interview a few years ago, she indicated that her refusal to speak to her mother was linked to childhood abusive experiences at the hands of her stepfather. One can only speculate about what really went on there.

With nothing to rely on but her looks, which is a fact for so many of us women, she turned to drugs and alcohol to ease feelings of insecurity that plagued her. Despite all of her gifts and accomplishments and beauty, she saw herself as poor and uneducated and needed someone like Howard K. Stern to keep her together. The older she got, the more insecure she became about her beauty– just like her mentor, Marilyn Monroe. Like Marilyn, she had a string of men; like Marilyn, she alternated between pure seduction and helplessness. Also like Marilyn, I can discern Anna Nicole suffered from the fear of being alone and of being controlled. So her whole relationship with Howard K. Stern was conflicted, with her need for companionship competing with her resentment about his overly controlling nature.

Where she could have turned it around was by getting in touch with her core truth about her abusive childhood. At my public Truth Heals™ events, I help people find the core truth that is robbing them of health and wealth and happiness. Anna Nicole had her whole childhood really bottled up, and that’s likely why she ended up with a substance abuse problem. If she had been able to keep her friends and family close (which Howard didn’t allow, with his controlling issues), she might have felt safe enough to get the professional help she needed to get free of her drug addictions.

If she had been free of drugs, it would have been unlikely that her son, Daniel, would have died from a Methadone overdoes that day. All of us can see that it was likely the death of her son that finally pulled her down. Even with that beautiful baby girl there for her, she was dealing with overwhelming grief at the loss of her son, and very possibly self-blame for his death.

By identifying herself with Marilyn Monroe, she actually connected energetically to that pattern of tragic early death from questionable causes. That is, she used the Law of Attraction here to her detriment.

It would have been so easy to help Anna Nicole to connect instead to a healthy pattern like that of Jane Fonda. Jane conquered an eating disorder and a history of controlling men (all the way from her father to Ted Turner) to become a great example of a self-empowered woman; she speaks her mind in a fascinating autobiography,My Life So Far. Anna Nicole, had she had the same opportunities, could certainly have turned out the same. It’s important that we, as a culture, all focus on her life and death because it teaches us about the dangers of denying our own truths.